Buchanan native shares leadership, relationship tips in written word
BUCHANAN — Dec. 10, 2019, was a date Daphne Scott said she will never forget.
The months beforehand were part “insanity,” part pleasure, but on Dec. 10, those emotions were released. So was her first book, “Waking Up A Leader: The Five Relationships of Success” by Lioncrest, a publishing division of Scribe Media.
The book highlights five different types of relationships that people are part of in their everyday lives, whether professionally or personally. By the book’s end, Scott hopes to “wake up” those relationships, as the title suggests, in readers to help them become better leaders.
The book was borne out of her experience working with clients and companies as a coach for relationship-building and improving oneself at work and at home.
“I just noticed some of these things over and over and over, and I started coaching on these things often, actually,” Scott said.
After graduating from Buchanan High School in 1989, the Oklahoma City resident went on to receive a master’s degree in applied positive psychology and a doctorate in physical therapy. She later became the director of leadership development at Athletico Physical Therapy and, now, chief culture officer at Confluent Health.
Scott also offers a 10-week online leadership and relationship-building course, a newsletter, a blog and personalized coaching.
“Waking Up A Leader” is meant for many parts of life, not just professional development, although Scott’s teaching is partially grounded in preparing people who find themselves in management positions with little management experience.
“There are absolutely transactional skills that we have that are very important, but there are also transformational skills we need to have in our life,” she said.
Those five relationships mentioned in the book’s title — such as friendships, time and money — can be developed to “wake up” a leader, she said.
The first section of Scott’s book focuses on how well (or, in most cases, how poorly) people pay attention to their lives and their relationships.
The second section spends time focusing on each relationship personally.
The third section focuses on how to cultivate healthy relationships.
The book’s title is multifaceted, much like Scott’s attempts to bring out the importance of relationships in all aspects of life, she said.
Its most basic meaning is meant to reflect the feeling a newly promoted employee may feel upon starting a new professional chapter in their lives. Often, it can be abrupt and confusing, Scott said.
The other meaning is based on how people need to wake themselves up to the ways they are living to get the most out of life.
“I landed on it really on my own experience,” she said. “How was I waking up in my own life? How was I paying attention to things that are meaningful to me?”
Scott said she has always had a passion for supporting people in becoming their best selves, but it took her 15 years to realize the best way to use that passion.
Regardless of how people interpret “Waking Up A Leader,” Scott said she hopes readers will learn of ways to best manage their energy and take care of their mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.
“Regardless of what you’re doing in your daily life with work, you need to take care of yourself,” she said.
Doing so allows people to make better decisions, whether as a leader in a business or a person deciding how to best use their time away from work, Scott added.
“Waking Up A Leader” can be purchased on amazon.com.