NELDON: Make your resolutions stick
Published 9:13 am Thursday, January 9, 2020
This week, more Americans will visit the gym than any other week of the year. Planner and journal purchases will skyrocket. Financial planners will help mountains of customers working to better budget their money, and health food stores will be packed with people working to make healthier choices.
Two months from now, loyal gym members will not have to fight as much for the ellipticals. Journals will be abandoned, and health food stores will go back to serving their steady flow of customers on Sundays.
We all know how New Year’s resolutions go — most become memories by the end of February.
Nonetheless, when we closed the book on 2019 and opened a new decade, I set my own goals for the coming year.
Professionally, I have resolved to collaborate more. I want to work with my staff to accomplish goals and improve our products, collaborate with businesses and organizations to better serve our community and create a dialogue with our readers about how we can best serve them.
Personally, my goal is simple: I want to make more memories. I intend to spend my personal finances on experiences rather than things, and intentionally set aside time to spend with loved ones and invest in myself.
Like any resolution, these goals will take work, accountability and follow-through. Each of these skills requires mental tenacity and determination.
The American Psychological Association offers the following tips for achieving resolutions:
1. Start small — Break big goals into bite-sized, achievable chunks.
2. Change one behavior at a time — Don’t feel like you need to evaluate or change everything at once.
3. Talk about it — Share your experiences — successes and failures — with peers, loved ones or friends.
4. Don’t beat yourself up — “Perfection is unattainable Remember that minor missteps when reaching your goals are completely normal and OK.”
5. Ask for support — Accepting help from experts or those who know you well will enhance your chances of achieving these goals — big or small.
As you move into this new decade, I encourage you to take this advice. Share your resolutions with others. If you have mastered a skill a peer is hoping to perfect, offer your guidance constructively. Use missteps to push you forward, rather than slow you down.
Then, when you get to December, reflect on how far you have come and celebrate your wins!